NEVER LOOKING BACK: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOSTON’S TOMMY DECARLO
By Jeb Wright
Boston vocalist Tommy DeCarlo has had a few years to
get his feet back down on earth since going from a
regular guy working at Home Depot to singing Boston’s
greatest hits on the band’s 2008 tour. Fairytales do
happen and dreams do come true and no one knows that
more than DeCarlo, who sent a chance email to Boston
offering to sing at Brad Delp’s tribute concert and
ended up becoming the band’s lead singer.
During Boston’s downtime, DeCarlo produced two
singles and released them on the Internet. One song he
wrote for his wife and the other he wrote about Brad
Delp. In fact, it was the Delp tune that began the
process of Tommy’s incarnation from home repair guy to
rock singer. The tune is titled “A Man He'll Always Be”
and Tommy wrote the song only days after Delp’s tragic
suicide.
Oddly enough, several years prior DeCarlo met Delp
after a Boston show in Florida. Neither man knew then
the connection that would one day link them together
forever.
The interview that follows is an inspiring look into
the past, present and future of Tommy DeCarlo.
Jeb: You have two new songs, the first is titled “A
Man He'll Always Be” and is a tribute to Brad Delp,
written only days after his death. Tell me the story
behind writing the song.
Tommy: I didn’t have any music equipment at the time.
I had a microphone and some cheap software that I would
do my Boston karaoke on. My parents live down the road
and were on vacation so my son, Tommy, and I went over
to look after their animals. My mom has a cheap Casio
keyboard. I sat down and started playing the Boston
classic “A Man I’ll Never Be” but I just didn’t feel
right about playing it since Brad had just taken his own
life and it was really sad.
To me Brad was an awesome man and I had the thought
of “A Man He’ll Always Be.” I played around with a few
chords and my son said, “Dad, that is really good. You
should really record that.” By that time we were done
feeding the animals and I said, “Maybe another time.
Let’s go home. I don’t really feel like dragging
Grandma’s keyboard home.” He kept pushing and I said, “I
tell you what, you go in the house and load up the
keyboard and I will record it.
The original recording took me about twenty minutes
and then I took the keyboard back to my parent’s house
as I didn’t want my mom to be mad that I took it. I
reference a number of Boston songs in the lyrics. I
thought it was just a nice thing to do and I just did it
because I was a fan. I wanted to share it with other
fans and that is how my daughter got involved. She
helped me upload it up to MySpace and we also uploaded
some of my Boston cover songs.
Jeb: So this is how the seed was planted concerning
you contacting Tom and Kim Scholz about the tribute
show.
Tommy: I heard about the tribute show through the
Boston website. I remember thinking how much I wished I
could sing at that show. I even went so far as to say
that I belonged at that show. I wanted to go just as a
fan but I couldn’t afford it. I was just a regular guy
and I had bills to pay. I remember going home from work
one day and that someone had contacted me on MySpace.
Her name was Melissa and she had an email address for
the band. She told me it was a great song and that I
should sent it to Boston. I put it out there and sent it
but I was like, “Yeah, sure. Like anyone is ever going
to read this email.” To make a long story short, a
couple of weeks later I got an email from Tom’s wife,
Kim. She listened to it and thought it was great and she
said that Tom wanted to speak to me about performing at
the tribute show.
Jeb: Did you fall over?
Tommy: I was excited but at the same time really
nervous. I knew I was good at singing in my bedroom when
nobody was around but I would have to go out there and
sing in front of a bunch of hardcore Boston fans. I
returned the email and I got a call from the band’s
publicist and then I got a call from Tom. We discussed
the tribute show and it all went forward from there.
Jeb: Did you let them know you were just singing in
the bedroom? It would have been tough not to just let
him assume you were in a professional band.
Tommy: At the time it really wasn’t discussed. It
came up after the tribute show. I came home after the
show and Tom was calling everyone and thanking them for
coming up and participating in the show. Tom said,
“After seeing you sing I am going to guess that you are
in a cover band down there in Charlotte.” I replied to
Tom, “I hope you can appreciate honesty but I have never
been in a band in my life. The first time I stepped out
onstage with Boston was the first time I had ever played
with a live band.” Tom just started laughing.
About a month later Tom got ahold of all the band
members, including me, and said that he might take it
out on the road. He told me to keep it under my hat and
not tell anyone. I was going to work at Home Depot and
on Friday afternoon people were going, “Tommy, what is
going on this weekend?” I would say, “Nothing. I am just
going to hang around the house.” In reality I was
getting on a plane and flying to Boston to rehearse with
the band. This went on for four or five months. Finally,
I had to go in and tell my job that I had to go.
Jeb: Tell me about the first rehearsal you had with
the band.
Tommy: I was at the hotel with my wife and my kids
and I was a nervous wreck. I was going to be singing
songs with people that I used to see on posters and who
I idolized as a kid. I got a call at the hotel and they
told me that the band was getting ready to rehearse and
that he would come and pick me up. I asked if my son
could come and he said, “Sure.”
We drove across Boston and we came up to this very
average looking industrial area. The driver said, “Isn’t
that something? All these people are driving by and they
don’t have any idea that band is right in that building
over there.” We got out of the car and the band was
rehearsing “Don’t Look Back.” I only had a couple of
songs to sing and they had to rehearse songs with other
singers. I looked at my son and said, “Can you believe
that we are going to walk through those doors and Boston
will be onstage playing “Don’t Look Back.” There were
tech people and crew guys all around. I looked up and
saw the band playing the song and I was in awe.
Jeb: How fitting that the first song you walked into
was “Don’t Look Back.”
Tommy: Wow, Jeb, you know I had never thought about
that. What a good point. I met Tom’s wife Kim, who is a
super person. She introduced me to Tom and the rest of
the band members. They did a few more songs and I sat
there nervously waiting. Finally, Tom looked over and
said, “Are you ready to sing ‘Smokin’?” It was my first
song of the day and I cracked a few notes to be honest
with you. After the song was over Tom said, “Let’s do it
again.” I was warmed up and I don’t think I could have
sung it better the second time around. We then sang the
song “Party” and Tom came over and gave me a high five.
All of the band members were pretty excited about it.
There were crew members and family members there and
they were giving me some nice compliments.
Michael Sweet sang “More Than A Feeling” at the
tribute show and he was on his way over from Cape Cod to
rehearse it and he had not arrived yet. Tom said, “Let’s
do ‘More Than A Feeling.” Tom said, “Tommy, do you know
this song?” I am like, “Do I know it?” Tom told me to
fill in for Michael. When Gary started playing the
acoustic guitar intro to that song and I actually said,
out loud, softly to myself, “I cannot believe this.”
This was not a karaoke song and it was not a cover band;
it was the real deal.
Jeb: I have been able to interview people who meant a
lot to me growing up. Sometimes someone comes along
where I am in awe of the person. I get nervous and right
before the interview I have to swallow hard and just go
in. Did you have a moment like that?
Tommy: Leading up to the first Boston show on tour
was an experience. I remember having lyrics to songs
that I had sang my whole life in front of me. I had them
printed up purposely because I didn’t want to screw
anything up. Finally, one day, it was before our first
show, which was in Canada I said, “I don’t need these
lyrics. I have been singing these songs my entire life.
Let’s go do this.”
I have listened to a number of those early shows and
there is a few times where I can hear nervousness in my
voice. Once I got more relaxed then I was okay. I know
that I ended the tour stronger than I started it. I
learned that you really have to save your voice for the
shows. People will actual plan a vacation around the
shows. You have to make sure that your voice is in great
shape because you don’t want to let the fans down. I
know I would be bummed if I was in the audience and the
signer lost his voice.
Jeb: I have a friend who is a professional singer who
told me that he doesn’t even like to talk after a show
because his voice is loose and talking can actually be
hard on your voice.
Tommy: The band sent me to a vocal coach when I was
in rehearsals and I learned that one rule is no talking.
Everybody on the crew becomes friends with everyone
since you are together all the time. They would see me
at breakfast and say, “How are you?’ Before I could
answer they would say, “Don’t tell me. I know you have
to be silent.” I just didn’t want to seem stuck up but
everyone knew I was just being quite so I could save my
voice.
Jeb: Do you remember signing your first autograph?
Tommy: I do. I have two good memories of that. One
was when we were at rehearsal. For each venue there was
merchandise sales so there were a ton of 8x10s that we
would all sign. We had to sign these huge stacks and I
thought that was kind of cool. The other good memory was
at a meet and greet after a show and someone brought a
copy of the debut album. They complimented me on the
show and asked me to sign it. I looked down and saw Brad
Delp’s signature on it. I could not believe that was
happening. It took me back through the whole experience
in the few seconds I looked at Brad’s signature. I was
really touched. It was amazing and I will never forget
that.
Jeb: Did you ever feel wrong signing the early Boston
albums?
Tommy: I would not say I felt wrong about it but I
did feel a little uncomfortable signing something that I
was not a part of. Someone on a fan site said that it
wasn’t right for me to do that. What was I to do? Am I
going to tell someone no? If I do that then the message
board will say what a jerk I was for not giving me an
autograph.
Jeb: Did you ever meet anyone in the band back in the
day?
Tommy: Everyone always said that Brad was the nicest
guy in the music business and I got to experience that
back in the ‘90’s when I was living in Florida. I went
to see the band. After the show I positioned myself
where I could see the band members exciting the stage. I
yelled out Brad’s name and after he walked off the stage
and into a backstage area he looked up at me and gave me
two thumbs up. I thought that was as good as the
concert.
After the show there was this long white limousine
and everyone thought the band was coming out. I hung
around for over an hour and the crowd thinned down and
the driver told me, “Hey, this is for the concert
promoters. If you want to get a glimpse at the band then
you need to go back where the busses are.” I was off to
the busses. There were only about three of us standing
back there hoping to get a glimpse of the band. All of a
sudden a Cadillac pulls up and out walked Brad and Tom.
They were maybe forty feet in front of me. I was really
excited. Tom got into the car and Brad was coming around
to his side of the car and I knew if I didn’t say
something now then I was going to regret it. I shouted,
“Hey Brad, you guys were awesome tonight.” He looked
over and put his duffle bag on top of the car and walked
over to me. We shook hands. I had a CD in my hand that I
was going to ask him to sign but I was so jacked up that
I forgot to ask him to sign it.
Looking back I really see this as an amazing moment.
We both looked at each other never knowing that we would
one day have such a connection. I am very thankful that
I got to meet him. Now, I am so proud to be able to help
keep the music that Tom and Brad created moving forward.
Jeb: You have another song out as well called “I
Think I Fell in Love with You.”
Tommy: I wrote that song two weeks after the summer
tour. Just before the tour started, I didn’t even have a
keyboard. The Yamaha people heard about my story and
they sent me a beautiful keyboard. I never thought I
would ever be able to afford something as nice as that
let alone get one as a gift. I didn’t have time to play
with it as the tour was getting ready to start.
When I got home from the tour I had that keyboard
waiting for me and I started messing around with it. I
put some chords together and I thought about how I met
my wife back when we lived in Florida. The story is very
simple as we both ended up at the same restaurant one
night. We didn’t have cell phones back then --- it was
about twenty-four years ago. I remember wanting to know
her name before she left. I made that the first line of
the song. I am sucker for power ballads like “Amanda” so
I wrote the song. I sent the track up to Gary Pihl and
asked him to add a guitar track. He listened to it and
said, “I think you have really got something here.” When
I sent him the song I liked the song but all it had was
a keyboard and a scratch vocal on it. When I got it back
I loved the song. Gary added an element to the song that
took it from something that sounded cool to something
that sounded great. My wife really likes the song and it
made her feel good. It makes me feel good to write it
and it makes me feel good to share it with other people.
Jeb: Do you really feel it was love at first sight?
Tommy: As corny as it sounds I have to admit that it
was. Every relationship has ups and downs but we have
been married for twenty-three years and I couldn’t be
happier. I can’t tell you what it has meant to me to
share the life I have had with Boston with my wife and
kids.
Jeb: How did the travel change things? You were used
to coming home from work every day.
Tommy: We are a very close family. When all of this
happened it was kind of tough. They all knew I had a
great opportunity but I was away and we could only
communicate with emails. I was able to get them out to
some shows though so that did help. It really didn’t
change things all that much because we are well grounded
people. The biggest bonus is that when I am at home I
get to spend a lot of time at home. One tour does not
set you up for life but it has allowed us to do a lot of
things that we would not have been able to do otherwise.
Jeb: How have you been able to handle people
recognizing you?
Tommy: There is some notoriety I have received around
town. I don’t live for that but I don’t shy away from
it. If someone says,” Are you that guy from Charlotte
who is in Boston?” then I am proud of that. It is not
what you think it is, however. Most days I go around
town and no one knows who I am. There are not autograph
seekers waiting outside of my house.
Jeb: Your story really is a fairytale.
Tommy: It is something that we all were, as a family,
able to experience together. I really have to give the
credit to Tom and the band as they are as down to earth
as you can imagine. Gary would bring a lunch from home
at rehearsals; it is not like a wild and crazy time. I
am telling you these guys are really that down to earth.
I have never had to be anybody that I wasn’t which was
so wonderful. Not to sound corny but we are still living
out that fairytale. Things are quiet and I am as anxious
as the fans for the next Boston project to come out.
Jeb: I have talked to Gary and Tom and I know there
is a new album being worked on.
Tommy: Tom is working on some new material. I have
been fortunate enough to record a little bit on some of
that material. Tom does a lot of music on his own. When
he has something for me to sing then I am thrilled to
get a phone call to go up there and sing. I was up there
to do some vocals on one tune and the next day I went
back to do a little bit more and I was amazed at how it
sounded in just one day. It sounded like Boston and I
was a part of it; how cool is that? I don’t know how far
along Tom is on the new stuff but I excited that at some
point in the future there will be an album.
Jeb: You have two songs but do you have plans for an
album?
Tommy: I would like to do more of my solo stuff but I
will wait and see. Tom has come up with hit after hit
after hit and I am lucky to even come up with a song. I
just need to sit down and play the keyboard and act on
the things I come up with. When you get to certain level
--- and I don’t consider myself to be a big deal in the
music business --- but I would want anything I put out
to be up to par with the two songs I have come up with.
I don’t want to just put something out there to put
something out there. If I come up with some good ideas
then I will continue to record them.
Jeb: At what point did you realize that you sounded
like Brad Delp?
Tommy: I remember back when I was a teenager, I was
at a party at somebody’s house and some Boston music
came on. I started singing and people started looking at
me and getting quiet. After the song was over somebody
said, “Man, you sound like that guy from Boston.” I was
probably fifteen years old. To be honest I never went
into singing just to sound like Brad. When someone says
that then I take it as a great compliment. I don’t have
a special technique that I do. I don’t ever go, “I need
to really sound like Brad on this part.” When I sing
Boston music I just tend to have a tone that is similar
to Brad’s. I can tell a difference between us. I would
say on a scale of 1 to 10 I am a 5 or a 6. I wish I was
exactly like him. I just sang those songs the way that I
heard them growing up as a kid.
Jeb: Is there a song that Boston does not play live
that you would like to take a crack at?
Tommy: I would love to sing “Used to Bad News” off of
the Don’t Look Back album. There are a few of
them.
Jeb: I would love to see the band play “It’s Easy.”
Tommy: You’re right that is a really, really great
song. Brad does some great things on that song. I have
been a Boston fan for the better part of my life and I
am keeping my fingers crossed that one day I will get to
be able to go out and do it all over again.
Jeb: My last one is silly. Kim has given up on my
changing because I live in the Midwest and we consider
meat the only real food group. But Gary, Tom and Kim are
all very health conscious vegetarians so I am wondering
if they have gotten you meatless yet?
Tommy: In their presence I am. You’ve got to respect
them for that. I have never been a smoker but if you’re
around someone who smokes and they know you don’t smoke
then it is nice of them to respect you and not smoke. It
is kind of like that.
Before we end this interview I want to say to your
readers that the support I have received from the fans
on both the Boston songs, and my solo stuff, is
wonderful. I am very thankful to each and every one of
them. I feel very blessed.